Category Archives: Christmas Gifts

Christmas Gifts… Foster Fortitude

Christmas Gifts… Foster Fortitude

 

When life gives you lemons, make lemonade!

Fortitude is defined by Merriam-Webster Dictionary as a strength of mind that enables a person to encounter danger or bear pain or adversity with courage.

Dictionary.com defines it as guts.

Backbone, boldness, bravery, courage, determination, endurance, fearlessness, grit, perseverance, pluck, pith, spunk, stamina, tenacity…   (Don’t you love that word, pluck!  It makes you want to have it!)

When the going gets tough, the tough gets going.

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

Oh Lordy…

The experiences that build fortitude are not always the most pleasant.  Who would choose them?  However, if you look at the woman or man you have become due to some formidable and unpleasant challenges, what do you see? Who do you see?

Harold Kushner, a rabbi and inspirational author, wrote the book When Bad Things Happen to Good People following the death of his son, Aaron, from the premature aging disease “progeria”.   Kushner acknowledges in the Introduction that this life changing and painful experience made him a more understanding and compassionate rabbi for his congregation.    He also admits that he would give it all up to have his son back.

Unfortunately for us, we have no choice but to go forward with life.   We are forced to make sense of accidents, unnecessary deaths, traumatic experiences and misfortune.   But we do have the choice of how we digest and assimilate these experiences.  And this process fosters fortitude.

No matter how you’ve acquired it, you’ve earned it.

Embrace the gift of fortitude.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Christmas Gifts.. Hang on to Hope!

Christmas Gifts.. Hang on to Hope!

Hope is the feeling that what you want can be had or that things will turn out the way you’d like them to.

Hoping is a daily activity.  I hope therefore I am.

I hope he’ll call.  I hope they are safe.  I hope the chemotherapy works.  I hope the turkey comes out juicy.  I hope today is better than yesterday.  I hope there is not a run in my tights.  I hope I find my keys.  I hope they can can come for Christmas. I hope I find a job soon.

I hope my car starts.  I hope he gets home on time.  I hope she feels better.  I hope it doesn’t rain.  I hope she has a good trip.  I hope I have enough time.  I hope it’s not too late.  I hope we can make it.  I hope you will forgive me.   I hope I get a raise.  I hope I can find the perfect gift.  I hope she feels better.

I hope I get an A.  I hope he likes my dinner.  I hope I can go to yoga.  I hope gramma comes for Christmas.  I hope we can all be together.  I hope this skirt is not too short.  I hope she likes me.  I hope I’m not being a pest.  I hope we can still be friends.  I hope it snows. I hope she didn’t suffer too much.  I hope he fed the dog.  I hope she has a good time.  I hope to get away this weekend.  I hope I can be home for Christmas.

I hope I don’t miss my plane.  I hope I don’t miss my opportunity.  I hope my prayers are answered.  I hope you dance.  I hope they serve beer in hell.  I hope you’ll join me.  I hope he’ll pop the question.  I hope she’ll say yes.  I hope I can keep up.  I hope it’s not too late.

I hope to lose 10 lbs.  I hope we win.  I hope I have time to wash my hair.  I hope I get the promotion.  I hope we can still be friends.  I hope you will hear me out.  I hope I can return the favor sometime.  I hope you can come.  I hope you’re feeling better soon.  I hope it’s not an imposition.

I hope you’ll stay for dinner.  I hope you like it.  I hope you will consider all the options.  I hope I find a parking space.  I hope I make the cut for the soccer team.  I hope you’ll meet me half way.  I hope I get to see you.  I hope the results are positive.  I hope he let the puppy out.

Who are we when we lose hope?  What drives us forward, gets us out of bed in the morning, tickles our funny bone and makes life worth while?

What is your heart’s desire?  What would you like to be when you grow up?  Is there an old friend that you hope to reconnect with some day?  What is stopping you?

People who are hopeless are emotionally bankrupt.

Fill your coffers with HOPE.

 

Christmas Gifts.. Jump into Joy!

Christmas Gifts.. Jump into Joy!

Watch Patrick on YouTubewatch?v=YJH65jLvmv0

This is my son, Patrick, at our annual day after Thanksgiving Karaoke night at El Toro Brewery in Morgan Hill.

Talk about JOY!

Joy is having your family together for the holidays and making it user friendly by doing some of the activities that THEY like to do!  This annual Karaoke night has become a real crowd pleaser and is a great way to launch the holiday season for the Healy family.  Being that it’s Thanksgiving weekend, my sons have friends home from far and wide who come and reconnect with them over good beer and great entertainment.  Us “grown-ups” come along for the JOY!  (And sometimes we can be coerced to get up and sing… oh somebody twist my arm!)

Life is hard.  The holidays can be difficult. Feelings, memories, emotional baggage can all get stirred up inside us and we can get blue and nostalgic for the way things used to be or fantasize about how we would like our lives to be different.

OR we can take moments of JOY and string them together in order to get through the tough times.

When I think of the popular song Joy To The World I have visions of angels and peace on earth and heaven and nature singing.  How does that translate into the real world?

Perhaps it is at a Karaoke bar on a Friday night listening to your son singing Foxy Lady like nobody’s business!

BTW the beer is about $8 a pitcher.  The JOY is free!

 

 

What would you like for Christmas?

What would you like for Christmas?

Madonna and Child

I’ve always thought of the Christmas holiday preparation and grand finale similar to taking up an additional part time job in December.  The question of what would I like for Christmas seems to be the last thing on my mind.  I’m thinking more in terms of how the heck I’m going to get my Christmas shopping, decorating, and baking done with the final push being the full sit down dinner with turkey and clean sparkling glassware.  All the while showing up for my full time job and being a positive presence for students who are stressed out studying for finals!  (Well.. at least I don’t have 7 finals to study for!)

Yesterday one of my students came in to chat with me about a project she’s been working on.  She has a blog that has taken on a life of its own and has become quite popular internationally.  www.justlittlethings.net is a daily reminder of things we should appreciate in life.  She is coming up on the one year anniversary of her blog and gets thousands of hits a day.  If you take a look you will see why she has attracted so many followers.

The things she appreciates are all free.  Free for the taking.

Unfolding a paper snowflake.

Getting a compliment you’ve never received before.

Remembering there are good leftovers from the day before.

Getting your hair brushed.

Glancing over at someone and he/she is already looking at you.

Logging on to Facebook on your birthday!

As of today there are 537 things to appreciate.  All realized by a 16 year old girl.  That’s a gift in itself.

My meeting with Nancy made me think about the gifts of Christmas that are free for the taking.  Gifts that make a significant difference in our lives.  Forgiveness, faith, love, hope, kindness, mercy, grace, joy, peace, countenance, patience, piety, discipline, integrity, courage, acceptance, knowledge, fortitude.  There are too many to list.  All available to us.  All free.

Perhaps these are the real gifts of Christmas.

If a 16 year old girl knows what’s most important in life, shouldn’t we?